The Philosophy Behind it
I believe that you will BLOOM when the season and environment is right for you.
Through simple practices like gratitude we can manipulate our perception of our environment.
We can shift our mindsets to FEEL like we are living a new life, even without our external world changing at all.
Imagine if your home could just FEEL better without you spending precious hours changing everything about it first. THIS is the reality I'm offering you.
But, can you be a good mom with a messy house?
If you’re the mama who thinks she needs to have her whole house clean from top to bottom, decluttered, and carefully curated for unexpected company, I want you to know: You are valid.
You are a good mom. You are already all you need to be. You are creating a great childhood for your kiddos. You are the right mom for them.
You don’t need to have a clean house to accept that about yourself. You need to have enough self love and perspective to see the truth that’s been in front of you all along.
You can be a good mom with a dirty house. You can be a good mom with a clean house.
What’s important is that you figure out the best way for YOU to show up with love for your kids, love for yourself & love for your home.
The Method to it
1. Get Your Mindset Right
We are so much better than this. We are raising the future. We are holding up our entire society. We are the reason humanity carries on. My friend, don’t you ever feel inadequate. You are so much. Don't you dare get distracted by the lesser stressors.
In any other profession we seem to accept that everyone has a different skill set and brings their own unique perspectives to the table.
But in motherhood/homemaking categories it seems we literally make ourselves crazy trying to shape ourselves into a cookie cutter version to please everyone else, instead of embracing our truest selves, our natural abilities, and our unique perspectives.
2. Establish Ease & Routine
We don’t have to choose to take on more responsibility than we can handle. The trick is recognizing what you can realistically handle and choosing not to feel guilty for not doing more.
You are important. You are worthy. You are already enough.
You don’t need to do everything for everyone in order to earn your worth, your rest, or your badge of honor as a mom. You, as you are, are already enough. Period. Exclamation point!
Your daily home care can be easy and your routines can be simple. Release the guilt and the belief that this has to "be hard."
3. Handle The Nonstop Messes
Your worth is not dependent on the state of your home. Give yourself grace that you’re growing and learning and living your life.
You can love the home you live in, you can put in all the work needed to complete every project, you can spend hours every day decluttering and deep cleaning, but at the end of the day you’re going to need a place you can rest.
This section is full of practical "work smarter, not harder" advice for busy moms who don't want to spend every second of the day "keeping up with the house."
Personally, it’s the home care that's always got in the way for me.
Every time I’d sit to play with my kids, or snuggle up with a movie, the full sink would call to me. I couldn’t enjoy those moments with my kids, I couldn’t be fully present, because I was so convinced that the full sink and messy entry way were indicators that I was a bad mom.
Spoiler alert - being a mom has very little to do with how clean your house is and has a lot to do with how connected to your children you are. If you have to sacrifice one for the other, think clearly about that decision… And when you inevitably choose your relationship with your kids, don’t you dare feel guilty about letting the dream of a perfectly clean home slip away.
I’ve reached a point where my home is no longer a source of anxiety, it’s no longer a distraction from my life, it’s simply a place to live and a place to love. I want to share with you this shift and this journey that took place in my life over the last 3 years and it’s all right here in the Love Your Home Course.
Love Your Home was created for the mama (or not-a-mama) who is missing out on life because the house ‘needs you.’
This course is here to shift your perspective and shed a new light on the life you’re living. Creating an environment where your family thrives begins with you. Let’s make a home in that house you can’t stand. Let’s love the house we’ve hated. Let’s make a home that’s filled with love and laughter.
Lessons available today:
- Introduction and my story (11:49)
- Why those other challenges haven't worked yet (4:33)
- Gratitude and mindset (10:39)
- Is it messy, cluttered, or disgusting? (10:05)
- The words you use about your home (18:07)
- Hire yourself & clock out (5:19)
- Rest is necessary (16:34)
- Quit apologizing for the mess, letting people see it lived-in (7:27)
I'm Brittni, your mom-life mentor
I know everyone says "mom-life is so hard," but I just can't bring myself to agree. I'm more on board with the whole "mom-life, best life," train of thought.
I believe motherhood is awesome and all those hard parts aren't really motherhood. The hardest parts of motherhood should be watching our kids struggle to learn something new, or going through a heartbreak.
Keeping up with dishes, stressing about what schooling options to choose, getting behind on laundry, and feeling like you’re not an absolute MILF, shouldn’t be the “hard parts of motherhood.” Because let’s face it. Those are just a distraction for the real reason you’re a mom, your real purpose as a mom.
Getting hung up on those chores or limiting beliefs just isn't your destiny.
Ready to Make Shift Happen?
Your mindset is either your greatest enemy or your greatest asset - you get to decide.
It's time choose happy. It's time to choose fulfillment. It's time to stop playing the victim in your own home and start owning your mom-life.
You are the curator of your happiness. It's that simple. It's your time to take action and live the peaceful, joyful mom-life you've been afraid to dream of.
